The former Sable River resident is working to lift the taboo about talking about miscarriage. It’s important for people to talk about it, she says, so no one has to suffer in silence.
Bell had a miscarriage during her first year of marriage to her husband, Aaron Bell.
“When we first had our miscarriage, we couldn’t find people who could relate,” she says. “But, the more I talked about it, the more people I found who have gone through something similar.”
The miscarriage happened right about the time she should have been celebrating her first anniversary with her husband.
“Initially, I felt alone,” she says.
But Bell reached out - to her husband, family, friends and, eventually, a community of other women who have experienced the same loss.
She says if she could offer one piece of advice to women going through the same thing, she would urge them not to go it alone.
“Even if it seems hard, reach out,” she says.
For Bell, talking about it started the healing process.
“You don’t just lose a pregnancy, you lose the aspect of everything you’ve been planning the second you became pregnant…names, who they are going to look like, what school they will go to,” says Bell.
Her husband was telling knock-knock jokes to her belly and Bell was wondering if the baby was a girl or boy.
All of those dreams disappeared when they lost the baby.
While Bell says she was able to get pregnant the first time they tried, getting pregnant a second time has been an ongoing process for nearly four years.
Now, they are in the world of fertility drugs and $10,000 in vitro fertilization procedures.
While the couple has had their set of challenges since beginning their marriage Bell continues to take the lesson she learned with her loss to heart and talks about the struggles they are experiencing. She has been a steady blogger for Fertility Matters Canada and has found the exchange of information with her readers to be a huge help in her journey.
“It feels good to actually be helping people,” she says.
Did you know?
The Town of Shelburne has supported Bill 179, the pregnancy and infant loss awareness act, and made a proclamation to mark Oct. 15 as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day in the Town of Shelburne.
Each day in Canada, five babies die within their first year and eight babies are stillborn.
As many as one in five pregnancies end in miscarriage, one family in Nova Scotia per day experience the pain of losing a child as a result of miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal loss.
Increased awareness of the causes and impacts surrounding pregnancy and infant loss may lead to greater understanding, support and resources in communities across Nova Scotia.